Question by howdydog: Is he a jerk or merely being a guy?
I have been sick all week with a horrible upper respiratory infection. I hadn’t got to see my boyfriend (of 7 months) all day. about 5 he calls says he is going to this cigar place for about a hour with 2 of his friends to celebrate finishing their projects. thats cool. well 3 hours later he calls, not saying “sorry for losing track of time” but “we are at the liquor store!”…then still rides around. I feel like he ditched me. he said “its just guy time, just hanging out”…guy time is all good and fun but not when you ditch your sick girlfriend to do it, right?
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Answer by neddo30
give that man a good smack
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i think he’s being a jerk because the infection sounds severe.
he’s just being a guy
I would say he is just being a guy, don’t worry about it.
Is the infection contageous? There you go theres your answer right there you know it and you love it.
he is being a guy but he could be more considerate of you u know like flowers and some cough syrup
jerk
maybe he doesn’t want to get sick
your sick…..stay home…and when he is sick off smoking then u can ditch him all u want
hAVE SEX WITH HIM
If it was just 1 day hes just being a guy
We mess up sometimes
Its in our geans
Just get mad at him hes gonna be sorry then yall work it out
It will be alrite
Hope you feel better
That can be hard…talk to him and tell him how you feel but it probably isnt ditching if uve been sick all week…if he did it all week while u were sick then yes he ditched
Umm… He doesnt have to be with you all the time when your sick…
Well, if you see him pretty often, I think you’re overreacting. I’ve been with my guy for 5 years now, and 2 of them have been married. Guys need time away from us, just like we need time away from them. Besides, I don’t care who you are, if you’re sick with a chest infection, I wouldn’t want to spend a whole week with you either. It sucks for everybody.
if he sees you all the time and actually called you to JUST TO SAY sry for losing track of time, then nothings wrong. but if he doesn’t do all those things on a daily basis then maybe hes being a jerk.
well i know all the girls on yahoo answers are going to scream at me for saying it’s guys being guys but it is.
he is just a guy, he dosent want to upset he friends by ditching them to come to u. U know he luvs u but u should never push friends.
im 11 but im a guy and i think you should ask his friends what they were really doing without letting your boyfriend know
hes an asshole.
hes not being a guy, not all guys are like this, but in a way both of you are being selfish… him mostly though, tell him that you don’t like the fact that you feel ditched and that it wasn’t cool!
I bet he doesn’t feel like taking care of you. When he can’t have fun with you, he turns to his friends to have fun with them. What a d*ck.
its just guy time and think about it he maybe using you. instead of being your boy friend.
I don’t think he did anything wrong – its just one day.
He needs his bro-time. If he ignored you all week while you were sick there might be a problem but hey he called. And you were sick, so not much for company – let him know it bummed you out and hopefully he will hang out with you tomorrow, if not then he is a jerk. But no reason to get mad.
i think he’s cheating on you. i think he has a lot of time to drink and do drgus but he’s cheating i can tell. dump that mudder***** it’s the right thing to so. and “Guy time” they want it but not that much. 7 months oh yeah he’s leaving you because your sick. dump that poor fellow and if he comes to you for money slap him again!
Sounds to me like he is scared of the implied commitment that spending time taking care of a sick girlfriend gives. Personally I think that if he doesn’t take the time to be there when you are sick he’s unlikely to be there to support you any other time.
I think you already know the answer to this question… but in case I’m wrong.. it’s time for him to go. Just be thankful it only took you seven months to figure it out.
Good Luck
Well, I hope you are feeling better now. Having all these negative thoughts in your mind will not help you get better!! I say that he is a typical guy, doing a typical guy thing. What else would you expect? However, I say that him knowing how ill you are, he should display much more care and concern about you than spending hours drinking… makes him look insenstive. But then again if he was drunk, you cant expect decent behavior either. I say: Just scold him a little for being so selfish, but dont get into a fight about this, and forgive him.
I like to look at both sides so lets start with you.
What you wanted was to have some one there for you and to show they care. he doesn’t rush to your aid, he chooses to go out with his friends. Then when he over shoots his time with the boyz, you are there sick, and having to be by your self while he goes and has fun.
That is not unreasonable on your behalf. You got to know what your own value is and then, make sure others treat you as such. remember to the world you are one person but to one person you can be the world.
On his side of things.
He just finished a project and wants to go out to celebrate, you have been sick and theres not much he can really do to make you better.
He goes out giving you a call, and thinks he’ll be back in 2. Well the funny thing with celebrating is you cant keep track of time as well. At this point most guys know there already going to get it for being late, so whats a bit longer.
It sounds like he was a bit selfish and knew you weren’t going ta be happy, and just pushed it the extra yard.
he’s being a jerk!
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